Letter to my dear  girlfriends. 

Greetings to you the most adorable paragon of

God’s creature. A rare jewel and the mother of life.

I write this letter to you to understand some

important things that are of great importance to

your life and future in which negligence to these

would cause you more harm than good.

Please spare me some little time to read through. I 

promise not to bore you through this piece. It won’t 

be lengthy, I promise!

My first concern is about your dressing. I know it’s 

not all of you that have issue with this. You don’t 

need to expose your cleavage or reveal the details of 

your body by wearing those tight fitted clothes. Your

dressing will determine how you’re addressed and 

who will approach you.

Some men are ‘weaker vessels’, when they see your 

revealing clothes; they commit fornication and lust 

in their heart. Endeavor not to be a reason for such 

men to commit sin.

You’re beautifully made. You don’t have to wear

that heavy make-up before you look good. Real men 

don’t place much emphasis on looks but we are much 

concerned about what you can offer us as a wife, a 

mother, a friend and a suitable help meet. 

Take time to build your ‘content’ (character, 

strength, passion) rather than place so much 

emphasis on your looks. Real men marry ladies that 

have great contents but playboys and gold diggers

are so crazy about your looks. Being moderate looks 

great with!

No man can love you better if you fail to love

yourself so well. This is not pride but self-esteem.

Raise your standards so that you can sieve out

‘ordinary’ men. It takes a strong man with vision

and purpose to approach a strong woman. Become

one! Don’t be managed but be celebrated and

adored.

Someone of you don’t understand the word called

love. Most of you are emotional. Easily aroused by 

sweet lies and empty clattering that some guys use.

Love is not only in word, frequent calls, chatting,

text messages or ‘false’ care so as to get you in bed.

It is practical – in sacrifice and commitment.

Love isn’t that butterfly feelings you have. Love is 

all about making wise decision on who you’d commit 

your heart to in love. This will determine your peace 

of mind and happiness, now and in the future. 

Look before you leap!

Don’t let feelings drive you into a relationship

because it is temporal and would change overtime.

It is only when you are ready to make that decision

based on some carefully considered factors that you 

should start a love relationship.

You may not accept this, but it’s the truth. It is not 

a must that you should be in a relationship when 

you are not ready for marriage. Yes! Any

relationship that doesn’t add value to you will take 

away something valuable from you. Many of you, 

due to loneliness, intimidation or desperation

entered into a relationship, only to bite your finger 

in the long run. This would make you to say all men 

are wicked. Not so my dear. Some of us would treat 

you the way we’d treat our mothers and sisters.

As a single lady, God has completely made you, if

you know this truth. No man, I repeat, no man can 

make you complete. You have a brain and a

functioning mind. Your completeness lies in getting 

a life and building it. Get a career – pursue it! Or

learn a trade – gain expertise! Be financially

independent before marriage.

It’s somehow sad that most of you fall victim of

premarital sex because you attach sex to love. A man 

can have sex with you without loving you, tomorrow,

he’s gone with other ladies. He’d even deny ever

knowing you. Treasure your dignity. A real man will 

not culture you for sex but would bring out the best 

in you.

Rather than become a mother by circumstance, take 

your time to become a mother by choice. You will 

bear the consequences alone if you allow a man to 

have sex with you without paying any bridal price.

Nursing the baby alone, delay in your plans and

progress in life and the pain of motherhood which 

you didn’t prepare for are the things you won’t 

want to bear.

I still have more to say, but I’ll will sum up this

letter by quoting a Nigerian Proverb; “Many words 

won’t fill the gourd, only adhere to that which has 

been said”. I hope you’d consider all these points

I’ve listed. Do so and be wise!.... Thanks for reading through.